Tiny acts of intention matter inside us at times when we feel like our season has been handed to us like a deli number.
(Disclaimer; you may get hungry reading this. Best bring a snack.)
let your story out to preach
In friendship there’s no engagement ring. No friendship Facebook status – “in a relationship” or “it’s complicated”! But we know when someone has decided to obligate to us when she comes to the funeral, when she knows when you were born, when she knows your coffee order, or when she flat out tells you, “you know I’m here for you right?”
This usually comes up when a corner of a pivot story sticks out and trips you. On some level you already know that the two of you are arranging the furniture around it. There’s a piece of your history or hers that you skinny by strategically. You don’t want to be the one to expose that you have this in your past, or she thinks you’ll judge her.
As with a facedown cake, you can make certain assumptions. But unlike a facedown cake, there are witnesses. Ask for the story.